Still waiting

Not much to report, things are the same.

I still don’t have my MRI results. It was almost 4 weeks ago now 🙄

When we phoned PIP on the 6th week (originally we were told we’d have an updated decision in 3), the person we spoke to said “what I’d advise you do is call again at the end of March if you haven’t heard anything”…😱😱😱 That would be twelve weeks!!!! 😡 So I think we’re going to phone them weekly just to try to annoy them into acting faster 🙄

And I haven’t heard about an appt for my EEG yet, despite the two referrals my neurologist sent 🙄


I continue to have way too many seizures everyday, alongside battling chronic pain and bipolar disorder. I’ve been hiding inside, either not going out at all, or going out for 15-30 minute walks to enjoy the snow🙂

Because I haven’t really been going out, my seizures have been sitting at an average of 15 a day, but a few days back I had my lowest seizure day in about 10 months: 8 seizures in an entire day 😃

And that’s pretty much where we’re at.


Hiding indoors helps

Because my brain’s been so screwy and I’ve been having so many seizures lately, I barely left the house this past week. I had 4 days holed up inside.

Finally, my seizure total for the day lowered, so our plan to hide away & let it reset worked. Just over a week ago I was having on average 24 seizures a day, after hiding indoors this lowered to 14 🙂

It definitely helps that we’ve discovered the room upstairs doesn’t trigger my seizures much at all. We basically live in one room of our house (because why move about and have to deal with lighting triggers?!), we were originally downstairs as that’s the biggest room in the house, but even with blackout curtains and strategically placed lamps it triggered a lot of seizures. Upstairs is SO MUCH BETTER. And weirdly it’s lighter up here, but because of where the light is it’s not a trigger.

Today though I thought I’d better go outside, go for a short walk. Be in the world just a little. I got some nice photos!

We were out about 45 minutes; I had 3 seizures on the walk, and 3 within twenty minutes of getting back home…lighting is such a fucking shitty trigger to have.

It’s also one that’s denied constantly by professionals…and no, it doesn’t have to be flickering/flashing, bright lights or changes in lighting for me are just as bad as flashing lights. Like yeah okay, I’m a special case & this is uncommon, but you don’t know everything about the brain and you can’t claim to know everything that triggers seizures 🙄😑

It’s been nice staying indoors and having less seizures as a result though. I’d forgotten what it felt like!


12+ months to 2 days

Someone in the US got in touch with me yesterday. A few days ago they had their first seizure, ever, and were looking for support & advice.

Within two days of her first seizure she’d had a CT scan and an EEG. She was diagnosed with complex partial seizures (the same type they think I have) and will be starting meds.

All this within two days of her first seizure!

In contrast, next month will mark a year since my first appt with a GP about seizures. I was treated disgustingly, had to fight to get on the waiting list for a neurologist, and was told it would be a 12+ month wait.

I ended up in A&E due to seizures last October, which was actually kind of a good thing as it expedited my neurology appt, & I saw her 1.5 months later. I had my MRI 3 weeks ago, and am waiting for an EEG (my neuro’s sent off 2 referrals, but the local hospital isn’t acting on them).

The reason I’m posting this is because I’m so sick of abled people not understanding what a hideous monster the NHS is, and how disgusting it is. This person had two seizures total, I’m having over 300 a month and have had no support or treatment yet.

Whenever I try explain my hatred for the NHS, ableds ALWAYS bring up ‘yeah but the NHS is free and you have to pay loads in the US, so it is better’…my dad is TERRIBLE for this.

Firstly, you can say that because you don’t have a condition that puts your life in danger every single day, that you’re not being listened to or given treatment for.

And secondly – just because I complain about the NHS doesn’t mean I want rid, or would rather pay for healthcare. That’s not the only two options there are (shit free healthcare or awesome healthcare you pay loads for). How about an NHS that gets more funding, where treatment is faster and Dr’s care + are educated? Where instead of waiting 12+ months, everything was sorted in 4-6?

That shouldn’t be too much to ask for.

I know quite a few spoonies in Canada. One has suspected simple partial seizures, and is setting a neuro, having an EEG & MRI within 2 months of their 1st appt. Their healthcare is free and so very much better than ours.

It’s not an either-or, it’s a ‘the NHS needs improving because this isn’t okay’…and frankly, if you think it is good enough as it is, because you don’t have a disability, you’re just ignorant & ableist.

I am so SO tired of living with so many seizures. I’m so desperate for help from the NHS, yet I just keep getting treated like shit.

And when people try argue that UK spoonies have it good with the NHS…I just can’t.



I had another broken day today 🙄

Yesterday we tried to have a nice day, it was an epic fail…I almost ended up in hospital due to having so many seizures, the day was awful & very much ruined. I was left asking myself why I even try to do anything/leave the house anymore 🙄

Being so physically unwell obviously takes a toll mentally, and after yesterday, today I’ve just been struggling hugely. I wanted to hurt myself, I felt suicidal, same old bipolar crap. Add to that a pet died unexpectedly and my bf’s parents are being absolute dicks…and yeah, it’s been a bad day.

I started to feel a little bit better this evening. I just get tired of all my disabilities have taken from me. I get tired of not being able to leave the house, or have a life, and yesterday showed that so clearly.

I posted this photo yesterday online. This was me after I’d attempted to leave the house; I’d had 29 seizures, felt dreadful, and a migraine had hit me as a result of the high number of seizures. I might have an invisible disability, but that doesn’t make it any less real…

I can’t remember if I posted about this already or not (I have no memory anymore, my brain can’t really produce new memories very well) but my bf called the hospital about my MRI results, and also asked about my EEG. He was told by the hospital that’s too far for us to travel that they have sent off two referrals to the local hospital for my EEG, because they want it done asap, but the local hospital just aren’t acting on it…how is that okay?!? 😩

I’ve had significantly less seizures today but my mood is in the pits…I’ll take that over the other way round, I guess!


Everything is an uphill battle

I’m feeling totally overwhelmed at the moment, and depression is engulfing me again.

Yesterday marked 3 weeks since our PIP assessment, which we were led to believe that, because it was adding a new health condition and not a new claim, we would get the results within 3 weeks.

We got a letter from PIP, and opened it feeling sick with nerves…and it was this!!

Like…no!! Don’t say ‘we have your information’ when you’re supposed to be saying ‘we have your result’!!!

So my partner went to call the number to ask how long, and the automated script whilst you’re on hold has been updated to say you should wait at least FOUR WEEKS for your result now…like for fuck sake!! This is do taxing on my mental health, I just want it over with 😩

One of the most disgusting thing about benefits is how hard they make the process for disabled people. The people who need the most help!

This entire process has been a nightmare, and alongside it there’s been the Universal Credit process which has been going on for 10 months, & is just as bad!! I just want to know if we’re going to get the money we deserve. I want to know we’ll get money so we can not just ‘scrape by’, but LIVE. So we don’t have to worry. I want to know we won’t have to rely on a foodbank again, that we won’t lose our house, that I can get my disabled bus pass!

I’ve jumped through every hoop & it’s been so mentally AND physically taxing…so the fact we have to wait longer than they first said brought me to tears. UC has no end in sight, but PIP should’ve been over.

Anyway. That was yesterday.

Today everything feels like a very intense uphill battle. I’m feeling completely overwhelmed, even though there are no ‘scary’ plans today, no need to feel that way. I want to cry thinking that the instant I leave the house I’ll start having numerous seizures…what is my life?! What is the point?? Why am I continuing to live when my life is just being in a gloomy house?

Finley, our puppy, comes home at the end of this month. I need him so badly. Just gotta hold on.

Yesterday we went for a short walk around the forest at the end of our road. I didn’t wear my goggles, because if I do I miss out on the beauty of nature, I miss out on partaking in one of my favourite hobbies, photography!

I should be wearing my goggles anytime I’m outdoors, really. But I hate them so much that I really only wear them when I’m around lights (shops, restaurants, hospitals, buses, trains, town etc) or if I’m having a really bad day.

When I’m out in nature, I want to *feel* it, experience it…and you can’t do that wearing goggles that turn the world incredibly dark, steam up, and remove the beauty 😅 Seriously, when I wear my goggles the world is muted to one dark-blue colour, there is no beauty.

If they stopped all my seizures outdoors I’d probably wear them all the time, because then it would be worth it. But if I’m gonna have seizures anyway I’d rather enjoy the beauty, thanks!

I’m so tired of not being able to do anything, not being able to go anywhere. Of having dozens of seizures everyday, just from being indoors and going on ONE WALK a day! I miss going places and doing things, not just walks…I miss days out, shops, visiting exciting places. I don’t remember the last time I was in a shop, even a small one, it was weeks ago.

I miss living.


Anyone w/ MRI experience?

So yesterday I got my appt through for my MRI at the nearer hospital, and it’s this Friday 😳

My bf(/carer) rang today to ask a few questions, eg about dimming lighting, turning lights off etc. He also said “during seizures Dally may twitch or move their hand/arm – what happens in that situation?”, and the nurse said if I have seizure and move, the MRI is ruined 😳😫

She then asked how likely it was I’d have a seizure, and it’s like um…very? 😅

I mean travel there will have weakened me & caused seizures, the lights at the hospital will have trigger me, and even on a ‘good’ day for seizures (w/ no big triggers) that sees me having 10-15 seizures…so yeah, add in some BIG triggers and I’m definitely gonna have a couple in 20-45 minutes of MRI-fun-time!!

So the nurse was like ‘hmm, that is problematic’, and we’re here thinking WHY WAS NOBODY TOLD THAT I HAVE SO MANY SEIZURES A DAY, & STAYING COMPLETELY STILL FOR SO LONG WOULD BE AN ISSUE?! Like is that not kind of important?!? 😂

Seriously, if we didn’t know how useless the NHS is, we could have not phoned to let them know and just assumed it would be on my file!! Then we’d have got there and nothing would have been prepared and we’d be screwed!

The nurse asked my bf how reliable my auras are, and he said I get auras with about 70% of my seizures. So now the plan is if I have an aura during the MRI, I press the panic button. They’re also gonna possibly put extra padding around my head in the cage, to try keep it still if I seize without an aura 😫

My question to anyone with experience who has experience with an MRI – do you know if they can pause, during? Eg if I pushed the panic button, can they pause the MRI until I’m still again or would it be starting again?!

Good news though, they have said they can turn all the lights off in the MRI room, including in the machine itself. So at least that’s something 😅


Stupid comments are stupid!

I suffer from extremely photosensitive seizures.

This means any change in lighting is a trigger (eg leaving our gloomy house and going into daylight), TVs are a trigger, florescent lighting is a trigger etc etc.

So I have to wear goggles, and they reduce the amount of seizures I have outside of home by about 30%, more if I’m somewhere extremely bright.

Those are welders goggles, and these are ski goggles. I use both depending on the type of lighting I’m battling or how bad of a day I’m having.

You would not believe how much attention I receive, simply because I am wearing goggles 🙄😞

I mean, they’re not that big a deal, right? Wrong, according to the rest of the world 😫

Reactions vary from the mild – staring as I walk past, often staring with mouth agape (no honestly, this happens ALL THE TIME!).

To the ridiculous and rude – from laughter and cries of “what the fuck” and “nice goggles!”, to the comments I hate much more. These come from people who see their comments as innocent, or funny – certainly harmless.


These comments are usually along the lines of…

  • Forecast snow today are we?
  • Going deep sea diving?!
  • Oh wow, is that the latest fashion accessory?
  • Why are you wearing those? Oh they’re for seizures? Do they work? Do you wear them at home? Can I try them on?
  • Hey, look, a bank robber!

To anybody reading this thinking ‘well I don’t think any of those comments are that bad!’…it will be hard to get you to understand how they make me feel.

The thing is, when you’re already aware you’re attracting attention, and you’re already battling the difficulties of a disability, these comments are almost more than I can bear!!

They remind me I’m different, that people can’t see past that, that people are laughing at me. That I’m being watched ALL THE TIME because of goggles I have no choice but to wear…I’m constantly thinking ‘can I risk not wearing my goggles here? Am I bad enough I *have* to wear them?’

These comments force me to interact with people, and to disclose my disability. People are fucking rude!!

But more than that I shouldn’t have to deal with these comments!!!

Sometimes it’s not about them making me feel sad, it’s just about…well, people should learn to mind their damn business! I should be able to go out and not have to worry about comments or questions! Just as (most) people wouldn’t think it okay to say to a wheelchair user “too lazy to walk?!”, making a ‘funny’ comment about my goggles isn’t okay either! I don’t owe you an explanation, and you can keep your bullshit humour to yourself…I’m sure I’ve heard your ‘joke’ dozens of times before anyway 🙄

I HATE having to go out in my goggles, but *especially* to busy places, such as restaurants or towns. I see people staring and sniggering dozens of times, and get at least a few arsehole comments for every hour I’m out…it makes me hideously aware that I’m different and look ‘stupid’ 🙄

So next time you see someone different, and feel like making a humorous comment about it…just don’t. There’s really no need.