…and that’s okay!
Currently we can afford rent, bills and food. So we’re good! In the past we’ve had very very little money…I’m talking need to use a food bank, can’t afford ANYTHING little money.
It was scary but it means we appreciate what we have, and money is never taken for granted.
I get so frustrated with people who are constantly bitching about being poor when they have so much, or who don’t deserve the money they have…life isn’t about money but I’m so damn sick of these idiots 😒
For example my parents can’t stand to hear us talk about money, and every time it’s brought up it’s like we’ve invited them to a challenge?! Like, it’ll come up naturally somehow – they’ll tell us ‘just buy it!’ about something vaguely expensive I want (eg £20 dog harness, or a video game) and I’ll say “oh no, we can’t afford it atm”…and it’s like a little switch flips to CHALLENGE ACCEPTED!!
So even though they: own a gorgeous 3 bed house for the 2 of them, have 2 cars, 2 apartments, have been on 5 holidays THIS YEAR, have bought 2 new cars…they immediately go on the defensive to insist they are poorer than us 😩
And god help us if we say they’re not, because then we get lovely ableist arguments, such as – well we have to go to work (great, wish I could work!!).
It shouldn’t rattle me, but this literally happens EVERY time I speak to them and it’s so fucking annoying! We’re poor, we have very little income, we haven’t had a holiday in 5yrs and got excited recently because we bought a £27 game, our second new game of 2017…we spend £20 on each other for Christmas/birthday, and even though we rarely go out so spend money that way, due to seizures, we never feel bad about it! We never even bring money up!!
Or my bf’s brother. He’s in his early 20s, lives with his parents, pays no rent / bills, and has a full time job…yet he spends all his money on drugs and (to a lesser extent) alcohol, so his parents always lend him money!!! Like, WHAT?!?
Life is so fucking unfair 😅
Meanwhile we’re having to fight tooth and nail to get the benefits we’re entitled to, I’m having people left and right call me lazy/telling me to get a job when I’m having 20+ seizures a day and can’t leave the house…ugh. Spoonie life guys, sometimes it just really gets to you…