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Fall-outs, weird days, depression be gone

Sorry I haven’t been posting much, I’ve been going through such an intense depressive episode 😫

It’s been really tough, I’ve shed a lot of tears and have spent most my time feeling guilty & hopeless. Add to that family arguments/conflict on both sides, the stress of PIP assessments and other benefit crap, the daily struggle of various disabilities, and the fact I’m still grieving for our dog that was PTS before Christmas…and yeah, things have been awful.

But I hope I’m kinda climbing my way out of it.

It was supposed to be my MRI this weekend, but because of how fraught things were with my parents, we phoned up and delayed it so that it could take place at the hospital 15 minutes away instead of 90+ minutes away. My EEG & neurologist appts should also be there now, too, so that’s good πŸ™‚

In order to switch where the appts were, my partner had to ring the following:

Call the neuro switchboard. Be put through to my neuro’s secretary. Be referred to the neuro switchboard again. Be transferred to the secretary AGAIN πŸ˜‚ Be pushed back to the neuro switchboard for the 3rd & final time, then referred to the x-ray department HAHAHA πŸ˜ΆπŸ˜‚

The nurse we finally spoke to, in order to switch where the referral was, couldn’t believe we’d been sent to their hospital when our local is so much closer…we were like, “yeah, us neither!” πŸ˜…

I’m really, really glad that’s sorted though.

I’m knackered tonight. Seizure cluster this evening exhausted me, so I’m heading to bed now…hoping this post makes sense…?

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A quote

Every few weeks I am overwhelmed with how small and dark my life has become, because of seizures. I feel suffocated by all I have lost and all that I can no longer do. I spend a day crying and mourning for the life I once had. 

Today is one of those days. This is life with a disability. This is life with huge limitations. I’m not ashamed.

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Happy Christmas everybody

We’ve had a truly awful lead up to Christmas. Thankfully myself and partner celebrated about 10 days ago and exchanged presents, because I was having a good day for seizures…I’m HUGELY grateful we celebrated then as we actually had a nice day!!

My seizures have been absolutely disastrous this past week, I’ve had two awful migraines…one was my worst yet, with me writhing in bed for hours in absolute agony. Today is another day with seizure clusters and me just feeling totally out of it. And to add to the awfulness, one of our dogs had to be PTS less than a week ago…sheesh. 

I hope your Christmas build-up has gone better than ours, have a lovely day πŸŽ„

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Neurology soon!

Less than 2 weeks to my appt!

Today we went into town (out the house 4hrs, two 10 minute train journeys) and I’m approaching 30 seizures total for today. BUT we had a mainly nice time out 😊

Wearing my welders goggles I was able to go in a bank with ZERO seizures for the first time since I started having them, and none of the Christmas displays (which I love) were problematic because of their flashing lights. Last time I had to close my eyes when walking by them!

Apart from an absolutely disgusting teenager who made the comment “haha they have seizures, let’s get a strobe out!!” πŸ™„ it was a good trip!

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We don’t have much money…

…and that’s okay!

Currently we can afford rent, bills and food. So we’re good! In the past we’ve had very very little money…I’m talking need to use a food bank, can’t afford ANYTHING little money. 

It was scary but it means we appreciate what we have, and money is never taken for granted. 

 I get so frustrated with people who are constantly bitching about being poor when they have so much, or who don’t deserve the money they have…life isn’t about money but I’m so damn sick of these idiots πŸ˜’

For example my parents can’t stand to hear us talk about money, and every time it’s brought up it’s like we’ve invited them to a challenge?! Like, it’ll come up naturally somehow – they’ll tell us ‘just buy it!’ about something vaguely expensive I want (eg Β£20 dog harness, or a video game) and I’ll say “oh no, we can’t afford it atm”…and it’s like a little switch flips to CHALLENGE ACCEPTED!!

So even though they: own a gorgeous 3 bed house for the 2 of them, have 2 cars, 2 apartments, have been on 5 holidays THIS YEAR, have bought 2 new cars…they immediately go on the defensive to insist they are poorer than us 😩

And god help us if we say they’re not, because then we get lovely ableist arguments, such as – well we have to go to work (great, wish I could work!!).

It shouldn’t rattle me, but this literally happens EVERY time I speak to them and it’s so fucking annoying! We’re poor, we have very little income, we haven’t had a holiday in 5yrs and got excited recently because we bought a Β£27 game, our second new game of 2017…we spend Β£20 on each other for Christmas/birthday, and even though we rarely go out so spend money that way, due to seizures, we never feel bad about it! We never even bring money up!!

Or my bf’s brother. He’s in his early 20s, lives with his parents, pays no rent / bills, and has a full time job…yet he spends all his money on drugs and (to a lesser extent) alcohol, so his parents always lend him money!!! Like, WHAT?!?

Life is so fucking unfair πŸ˜…

Meanwhile we’re having to fight tooth and nail to get the benefits we’re entitled to, I’m having people left and right call me lazy/telling me to get a job when I’m having 20+ seizures a day and can’t leave the house…ugh. Spoonie life guys, sometimes it just really gets to you…

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OMG, I have an appt!!!

4 days ago we had the telephone appt with my GP.

It lasted less than 4 minutes & basically consisted of her being confused and asking my partner if “things had got worse” (she couldn’t understand why I’d been sent to A&E or why she’d been told I needed an expedited neurology appt. When she saw me in person a few months back she said I couldn’t be having seizures as I wasn’t ‘dropping to the floor’, and during a video of me having a seizure that we showed her she said “Well what am I supposed to be looking at here? It just looks like you’re watching television” πŸ˜‘)

Anyway, because we’d provided evidence from the hospital that they wanted her to try speed up my appt, she said she’d phone the hospital and try.

Lo and behold, today I got a letter through the door and early next month I have an appt with a neurologist πŸ˜ƒ

I actually can’t believe it!! I’m so nervous about it though haha.

Does anybody have any advice for phoning the hospital to ask if they can provide a room with dimmer lighting for me…? If I have to sit in a room with fluorescent lighting I’ll end up having back to back seizures, and be unable to talk, think, feel sick, confused etc…any advice appreciated!

My happy face πŸ˜‰

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But you don’t look sick / disabled

This was me earlier this evening after a fairly small seizure. 

I’d come around a few minutes before, covered in drool, and I was totally out of it. Epilepsy ISN’T ‘just seizures’…all my seizures have a recovery time, from a few minutes to a few hours, and they often leave me exhausted.

This is why I get pissed when old people tut at me or comment for sitting in the priority seating of a bus – I have an INVISIBLE disability, judge not!!