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Good day plz?

My parents are nana are coming up today, to celebrate my birthday early.

For me it’s gonna be a big day out – 5 hours of being out in the world; eating lunch out and visiting museums. 

Yesterday I was suffering for pushing myself too far the day before. And by pushing myself, I mean and I went out for a few hours in the afternoon, then in the evening spent 3 hours researching epilepsy medication and taking notes…that was way too much, and I paid for it dearly 😅 I went to bed exhausted with a headache, woke up midway through the night with a migraine, and woke up in the morning with a migraine too!

Spent all day yesterday up until 5pm sleeping, but finally felt better in the evening and managed a short dog walk.

Hoping today will be a good day out…fingers crossed for no pain, not too many seizures, and that I don’t end up paying for it tomorrow!!

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Complaint & tattoos

PALS have said that they can’t see a referral to a neurologist on my file…which is very odd 😑

The GP sent off the referral 2-3 months ago, so…?

 My partner phoned our GP surgery this morning to ask if there was a referral on the system, but they wouldn’t talk to him…which is just UGH, because when I filled in the registration forms at the surgery, I wrote at every suitable bit that he should be added on the system, I gave consent for him to talk on my behalf, AND I checked with the GP too!!

So now we have to go into the surgery today to ask about the referral, and I’ve written a note that says ” I [name] once again give consent for my partner and carer [name] to talk both on the phone, and to Doctors, on my behalf”. I even included my old and current name and signature, because I’m changing my name on the system today too. 

It’s my birthday in a week and I’m getting two tattoos for it woop woop!

I’m so insanely excited, I haven’t been able to get any new ink in years, because of seizures and what not. I’ve planned these two tiny tattoos so well too haha 🙂

My appt is on Friday, the guy doing them is lovely and I had two of my others done with him. He doesn’t take bookings over the phone anymore as he takes a deposit due to idiots not turning up, so at first we thought we were gonna have to go elsewhere (bit too much to have to travel in to book them, then again for the tattoos). But my partner called him back to ask how long his waiting list was, and when he found out I was disabled he was so lovely and booked us in there and then, no deposit 😃

I also got some new CBD oil to try, and it arrived today. I’m so desperate for relief atm, and the NHS isn’t taking me seriously, so I’m trying a different CBD company in case it helps more. CBD Brothers is supposed to be one of the best in the UK, so fingers crossed!

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A&E, nice staff & negligence

I’ve been having an awful time for seizures.

Ever since autumn hit, and the days are mostly grey and the sun sets earlier, I’ve been having 10+ seizures MORE a day than I usually do.

Saturday was awful. Mid afternoon I was out of it for over an hour, with back to back seizures and being unable to respond or understand anything between them. I was having seizures regularly all day.

At about 8pm we called 111, making it clear they were NOT tonic clonic seizures and I was not in non-convulsive status epilepticus right now. We said we were just concerned abs didn’t know what’s to go four help. The guy said he wanted to call an ambulance to bring me in, and when we said we could get the train there so as not to waste their time, he said he wanted us to travel in am ambulance.

We arrived at A&E at 9.30pm. The paramedics were lovely – asking us about our pets and really putting me at ease. They turned the lights off in the ambulance and put the blue lights on so add to be nicer on my brain. I had four seizures on the way to the hospital.

We waited about four hours at A&E then were seen by a Doctor. He did some examinations, then turned the light off in the cubicle so he could do exams where I’d need to remove my goggles. He did this himself and I didn’t ask him to do so.

He did a pupil reflex test where he shone a light in my eyes, which immediately triggered a seizure. He timed the seizure (45 seconds) and asked my partner if how I was behaving was typical – staring, unresponsive, picking at things.

When I came round he said the light was clearly a trigger, and that these were obviously absence seizures. We told him how I feel before, during, and after, and he said it was all very typical of seizures.

It was so nice to be listened to and understood!

He wanted me seen by a neurologist, but there was no way to do that right now, so he said he’d admit me to a ward and I’d spend the night there.

We were waiting in that room about three hours. Within the first hour I had a blood test, ECG, gave urine, and had blood pressure & temp taken for the 4th time. 

At about 4am we were moved into the hallway. Here the fluorescent lights were extremely bright, and I’d already had 45+ seizures that day so my brain was mush. I began to feel very out of it,  had seizures, felt awful and was panicky. I got a really bad headache and my partner got me some paracetamol. The hospital was full of noisy drunk people which was not being my head. I remember tearfully begging staff to put me somewhere dark.

Just before 5am I was moved to the ward. A consultant Dr came and did reflex tests – no lights, just tapping my joints, getting me to squeeze his fingers etc – he asked for an overview of why I was there and looked at my notes. He commented that a temp reading said I’d had a fever earlier, which was ‘weird’ but ‘probably nothing to worry about’, although he wanted to do a chest xray the next day.

At 5.25am I was left to go to sleep, although it took a long time. I was next to the brightly lit hallway which didn’t help, and the nurses walked about singing, shouting to each other and patients etc.

At 7.15am a male nurse said “turning the lights on ladies”, and fluorescent light flooded the room. I’d slept with my face under a jacket, so I emerged and grabbed my wide brimmed hat and goggles. Almost immediately I started having seizures – the lighting was an obvious trigger, along with only getting one hours sleep, stress, the heavy seizure day the day before, and I hadn’t eaten in 20 hours.

I spent the next 45ish minutes out of it, seizing, and feeling terrible physically – trembling, exhausted, nauseous. I deliberately wanted to ask for help from one of the nurses walking past, but wasn’t aware enough and couldn’t manage words. I finally tearfully stammered to one “the lights are really getting to me”. He turned the light directly above me off.

At another point the nurse who had been assigned to me for the day said “welcome back” as I came around from a seizure. Otherwise I was ignored.

At 9am a Dr and someone else came to see me. He asked how I was, and all I could think to respond was “okay…”. He asked where I lived, and it took me about 10 seconds to work it out and reply. He asked what I did for a living, and I couldn’t work out what to say so said I receive PIP. He then said something truly disgusting: “You’re too young for PIP, no? You should be out and about in the world”.

I was unfortunately too ill to respond and tell him that disability has no age limit. And don’t you think I would truly love to be able to get out in the world, rather than living a life of misery?

He finished with “you want to go home today, yes?”, and I confusedly said yes. Because I did, after I’d Breen seen by a neurologist and gotten help. He then said I was released to go.

The nurse assigned to me came and asked if I had someone who could come pick me up. I was still confused, but said my partner. I called my partner and didn’t know what to say other than come to me haha.

I sat there for a while, not understanding at all what was going on, then gathered my things and tried to find someone to ask if I could leave and wait outside. I just wanted out. I stood in the hallway for several minutes, but was too out of it to understand how to catch anyone’s eye and ask, and everyone just walked past me. I had a seizure, then walked further up the corridor and finally said to a passing woman “excuse me, if I’m being discharged can I go wait outside?” She checked with a nurse and said yes.

I left the ward and walked down a few corridors before having to stop, very confused, and have a seizure. Once I’d come around I started walking, stumbled across an exit sign, and left.

I called my partner to let him know where I was heading, then called my parents. They were furious about how I’d been treated, and my mum insisted on calling the hospital. Staff were happy to speak to her about confidential information to do with me without asking for my consent.

My mum was told several HUGE lies.

  1. That I’d had a CT scan, and the results showed I wasn’t having seizures. This didn’t happen. I never had a CT scan. I didn’t have ANY examinations that could identify seizures. When my mum called back to confirm this, she was told it was a ‘mistake’ and that they can’t be expected to know details of 43 patients at once!
  2. They said that no staff had witnessed seizures in 12 hours of observation, and the reason I was released from the ward was because I hadn’t had seizures that morning. I was able to tell my mum I’d been having many seizures since 7.15am, and one staff member actually referred to them by saying “welcome back”. There were also the paramedics, two A&E nurses, and the A&E Dr who had witnessed seizures.

My mum was furious.

She’s filing a formal complaint for us, so we can rest and recover from the experience. I’m still having a ton of seizures and feel awful everyday, and medical professionals are still refusing to help. 

And I’ve learnt to never go to A&E for my seizures again!!!

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Too much, too much!!

We’ve had a few busy days recently, beginning with my parents visiting at the weekend and journeying to a zoo.

The busyness caught up with me, and for the last few days I’ve just felt so physically exhausted. One day I didn’t leave bed other than to go to the loo. I have been SO TIRED.

For years I would’ve fought against this, called myself lazy, and been filled with self-hatred. But I’ve learned that when you’re chronically ill / disabled, you HAVE to listen to your body. Self care is not selfish! If you need a day of rest, you need a day of rest. If you need an entire day in bed recovering, do it!!

Today I woke up feeling energised, but I pushed myself too much. I ended up having to come home from a day out early, I had a seizure and fell (and have a cracking bruise on my head now), and we had to cancel plans with family. I rushed back into activity too soon, but I’ll learn from this and take it slower next time.

Point of this post? I dunno. Listen to your body, fight the stigma of others thinking you’re lazy, and do what YOU need to do.

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Nervous – my first BIG day in years!

Today my parents are up for a visit to belatedly celebrate my dad’s birthday, and we have a big day out planned.

We’re going to a zoo. Not just our teeny-but-lovely local zoo that’s a 15 minute drive away, but a BIG zoo a 50 minute drive away. That’s a huge journey for me (travel being my biggest trigger) and the zoo will most likely be packed with visitors, as it’s free admission until the end of this month.

After that, we’re hoping I’ll be well enough to look around a few shops and handle a meal out at a pub.

This is the sort of day out I haven’t been able to do in years, and so obviously I am nervous. I’m also aware that MANY people will stare at the zoo, due to my goggles. But I need them, so fuck ’em 😉

With my wide-brimmed hat and my polarized goggles, I’m hoping we can enjoy a really good day out with not too many seizures. Nervous but excited!

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This bad day got busted!

Today started off with my depressive episode feeling the heaviest yet, but the day got completely overturned with a succession of awesome things happening 😀

This normally never happens, we have the worst luck haha, so yay!

First thing…Halifax got in touch about my complaint

I complained about the way they treated me in terms of my title, that they don’t have anything outside of Ms, Mrs or Mr on their system, and also that the staff member had no sympathy for me having seizures / brain fog.

Well, they gave me a monetary compensation and far FAR cooler – THEY ARE ADDING THE TITLE MX TO ALL THEIR BANKS, NATIONWIDE!!! 😀

They said it might take some time, but they are actually doing it! And I got the first Mx card from a Halifax ever, which my mum pointed out haha, and how cool is that?!

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Woohoo! Thank you Halifax for being so good 🙂

On top of that, when I text my mum the outcome she was amazingly wonderfully supportive and impressed. We then had a really, really awesome conversation about the name change, me being non-binary, how I felt etc etc.

My parents haven’t seemed particularly supportive throughout this, so this came out of left field and made me so hugely happy!! She said she’s gonna start trying to call me Dally too haha, which will be weird but awesome XD

Happy me’s from today!

To celebrate monies, we went out and explored somewhere we’d never been before.

I’m trying to push myself for further and further train journeys now my polarized ski goggles are helping so much with seizures. This was my longest journey yet at 35 minutes. Great day, and I got to go around four different pet shops – something I haven’t been able to do in YEARS!!

We found a fab new herp shop, and guess what? WE RESERVED A ROYAL PYTHON!

I’ve wanted a Royal for almost a decade haha, but have always opted for other snakes when we’ve been looking for one. The pet shop guy was showing us loads of herps though, and this Royal was for sale and it was so tame and he said it was a great feeder…and it just happened 😀

I’m collecting it this weekend when my parents come visit us, so we have a few days to sort the viv out. If you don’t like snakes, look away now and scroll to the red word SAFE!

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The snake in the middle is mine! ❤

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SAFE!

We also got a bite to eat at a Costa, and I found some new walking boots in a charity shop. Hells yea!

 

I only had four seizures whilst out, and we were out about 3.5/4 hours too 😀

Also check out this pic from the train on the way there…LOOK HOW NORMAL I LOOK!! I couldn’t ride trains for so long, and there I am just chilling reading a book!!

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Train back wasn’t quite as fun, as there were some obnoxious teenage girls sat opposite blatantly laughing at my goggles, but for a depressive episode I dealt with it really well, so I guess I can be chuffed with that 😛

Hope y’all have had as good a day as I have!

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Difficult days

Depression has been suffocating me for a few weeks now, and then yesterday I had one of the worst days for seizures I’ve had in a long time.

Things are pretty stressful atm and stress is one of my top 5 seizure triggers. Yesterday this really showed!

I had three big clusters of seizures, lasting over an hour each time. About 20 minutes of back-to-back seizures (each seizure lasting 2-3 minutes, with a 20 second break of me being somewhat lucid, then another rolling in), then 40-60 minutes afterwards where I act messed up…laughing spontaneously, shouting, repeating words for minutes on end, talking nonsense, swearing etc.

After each cluster I feel incredibly spacey and it takes me a long time to recover. So three of them in one day leaves me with little time to feel well, as I feel off before them too!

I finally came around late evening, so we were able to get the dogs out right at the end of the day and enjoy a takeaway. I hope today is better for seizures, although my depression is already making me feel terrible…better days had better be ahead!